Showing Your Wife You Love Her

From Catholic Exchange:


“The causes of this breakdown of marriage are many, but really, the solution is simple. We who are called to the vocation of marriage must love our wives. Let’s face it, we ultimately can’t change anyone’s marriage but our own. In the face of marital collapse on a massive scale, our Catholic marriages must be a prophetic witness of joyful life, fidelity, and love.”

The author gives 25 ways to show your wife you love her. Some samples:

  1. Listen to her and care about what she has to say
  2. Show her physical, non-sexual affection
  3. Surprise her with flowers
  4. Take her out to dinner (without the kids)
  5. Buy her a book she’s been wanting

Follow the link to read them all. I think, however, that a list like this, while a good starting point, won’t fit the bill in the long term. No checklist, can truly tell us how to love our wives. Christ did, however, through St. Paul. He said:


Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her to sanctify her, cleansing her by the bath of water with the word, that he might present to himself the church in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
Ephesians 5:25-27

Total self-sacrifice, putting our wife’s needs before our own. It’s impossible, of course, being only human, but the more we strive for that ideal, the stronger our marriage becomes.

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